So, you had a big fight. One thing led to another. Voices were raised and maybe some not-so-nice words were exchanged. Perhaps someone’s mother was referenced. Whatever happened, happened. You can’t go back now. What you can do, however, is cool off, consider the events that took place, and get to work on repairing the rift between you and your partner. This quieter after-fight space, when everyone has collected themselves and is ready to talk again, is often where the true work takes place. Here's how to make the most of it.