It seems to defy common sense, but the evidence is in: If you want to change a child’s behavior, telling them what they’re doing wrong is NOT the most effective way to do it — especially if you’re raising your voice. Giving them positive attention when they’re doing the right thing is more effective. Ignoring the behavior you want to discourage (unless it’s dangerous!) will make it disappear faster than correcting or scolding. But how do you do it?

This week on childmind.org we explore why positive attention is the most powerful tool parents have for shaping behavior, and how to use it to best effect.

Caroline Miller, Editorial Director | ✉

The Power of Positive Attention

How to use it (instead of negative attention) to change behavior.

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Why Are Kids Different at Home and at School?

Some hold it together at school, only to lose it at home. Others struggle in class.

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When Siblings Won't Stop Fighting

How parents can keep the peace and help kids learn to resolve conflicts.

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What NOT to Do When Your Child Is Having a Tantrum

Tips on responding to difficult toddler behavior.

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Helping Kids With Self-Regulation Skills

Some kids need help learning to control their emotions and resist impulsive behavior.

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How Can We Help Kids With Transitions?

With the right support, children can learn to change gears without whining and tantrums.

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