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Dear John,

I’m an unmarried single woman running for office in the United States.

Researchers say that while my bold run for City Controller may be applauded on the career-front, I’m hurting my chances of finding a long-term partner to settle down with.

I say that’s his loss.

Societal norms, even in 2023, favor a man in a heterosexual partnership being the primary breadwinner and advise men to steer clear from entering relationships where they might be second or third in a woman’s priorities. There’s research and articles written warning men against marrying a “career woman” because he’ll find that she won’t be happy quitting her job and staying at home, the house will be dirtier, he’s more likely to fall ill, and there’s a high likelihood that marrying a career woman will result in divorce.

Damn right it will. If a man needs me to stay home, clean the house, and prevent him from falling ill, you better believe I’m filing for divorce.

But all of that aside, being a single woman running for office does come with some hardships. It means that it’s very difficult to find time for myself or days off where there isn't an enormous workload for the campaign AND an enormous workload for my single person household. Even though I am currently running for office, I’m still dating and using dating apps. Matches on these dating apps have recognized me as “the Alexandra Hunt who is running to be City Controller;” I’ve had to pull back on knee-jerk reactions at opportunities to campaign. 

So our campaign itself decided to join the dating apps in an effort to connect with likeminded, similarly single people and offer an opportunity to volunteer for our campaign as we fight for social, racial, and economic justice.

. . . Almost immediately, we faced backlash as being “desperate.” 

Well, oof – that hurts – but yeah, we are desperate. Aren’t all campaigns and causes “desperate” for volunteers? Aren’t we all looking for opportunities for connection and love?

Politics has been designed for status quo, married, rich politicians to succeed. But those kinds of barriers shouldn’t exist – anyone who wants to represent and better their neighbors’ lives should have the opportunity to seek their vote. And single people shouldn’t be ashamed of our desire to connect with each other – after all, basic human connection is essential to human nature, not to mention politics. Our campaign won’t be shamed for our desire to connect with volunteers and voters, including reaching single people on the dating apps. Incidentally, I also won’t be shamed for being on those apps in my capacity as a single lady. 

Will you send us a $10 contribution today to connect with our campaign and our growing movement?

In the name of love, 

Alexandra Hunt

Candidate for Philly City Controller

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Alexandra Hunt is a public health researcher, a girls’ soccer coach, an advocate for social, racial, economic, and environmental justice, and a community organizer. 

She's the daughter of two teachers and a sister to a twin brother with a learning disability. Seeing the systemic obstacles her brother faced inspired Alexandra to become an advocate and challenge barriers on the basis of race, gender, class, and ability.

Now, Alexandra's running to be the Philly's next City Controller because the people in Philly work too hard for too little. And right now, line items in budgets create lines for food and health care. It's time to elect a City Controller who is going to prioritize the needs of the communities Philly's money comes from.

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