A touch on the shoulder. Asking “How was work?” Telling someone, “You’d never guess what happened to me and the kids today!” These are all quotidian occurrences in a relationship, part of the rhythms of couplehood. But each is an example of something very important: a bid for connection. And the act of turning towards, not away from, your partner’s bids more often than not is one of the most important things you can do for the health of your relationship. Best part? It doesn’t require much time or energy.