A new parent wondered why people insist on telling children to stop crying. I think most folks get that telling kids (or anyone, really) "don't cry" is not particularly helpful.
In California, an estimated 16.7% of adults have experienced 4 or more incidents of childhood adversity, and in Shasta County that number is a staggering 38.8%.
“Just forgive and forget” can invalidate one’s pain and minimize the difficulty of forgiving. To forgive before pain from inner wounds has been processed and healed can be premature.
