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Hey ,
We are all yearning to get free - to release the pressure to perform, drop the expectations, reject the status quo and return to our most joyful easeful authentic selves.
In American Detox, I write about how perfectionism is one of the most toxic and oppressive myths that are holding us back from our potential:
Perfectionism isn’t something we’re born with; it’s learned. Here’s how it works: without knowing it, you practice, hone, and justify the skill until society pats you on the back for it. Before long, it isn’t something you are doing but a way of being in the world—a chronic fear of failure that drives you to do more, better. So, you micromanage. You fix. You prove and people-please. You are always performing and assuming judgment. You set impossible goals for yourself and others. You criticize. You self-beat. You don’t trust yourself, so you don’t trust anyone. You live in fear of failure. You reject feedback. You can’t tolerate mistakes. You refuse to ask for help from anyone. You worry. You get anxious. You beat yourself up. You get sick. You burn out. You lose friends. You lose jobs. You lose yourself.
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