| | | Resentment is like a drinking buddy. It keeps you company and lets you tell your story of being wronged. It feels comforting at first, then starts to work less and less. Eventually, no one wants to hear it anymore. The problem is that you remain stuck while pretending that you don’t care about what happened, when, in truth, you really do. The compounding part is that you want the offending person to make amends, except he or she has moved on. It’s on you to fix things, but resentment is hard to release. It lets you be “right” and rave on, and it provides identity, even though it’s not a productive one. So how do you cast off resentment once and for all? You’re not trying to forget, because that’s not possible. You don’t have to forgive. You don’t have to accept what the other person did. You just have to change the story into being just another story. |
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