Back in 1946, Frank Sinatra introduced a song entitled, “You Make Me Feel So Young.” The lyrics went: “You make me feel so young, you make me feel there are songs to be sung, bells to be rung and a wonderful fling to be flung. And even when I’m old and gray, I’m gonna feel the way I do today, ‘cause you make me feel so young.”
While Sinatra, a great artist, sadly did not live a life of marital fidelity, my memory still harkened back to those lyrics as I read a piece by Brad Wilcox of the Institute of Family Studies on how young married couples are more likely to have their marriages go the distance – to when they are old and gray – because they have had the joy of mutual love and commitment, without the emotional baggage of failed relationships trailing behind.
In so many ways, they end up experiencing more enjoyment and vitality in their marriages – and for a longer time – than their peers who are pursuing fun, instead of commitment, in their twenties. The spark of their love for each other, lit early, rarely goes out.
Of course, this defies the current “conventional wisdom” that young marriages are more likely to end in divorce, deny women the opportunity to establish a career, and do not allow men the opportunity to be free and independent before settling down to the responsibility of being a husband, and potentially a father.
Wilcox cites these early marriage naysayers and presents compelling evidence as to why these experts are wrong.
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