Fatherly
 
Jun 12, 2022
 
Whether we admit it or not, we all seek a sense of control. Parenthood is the perfect example. In an ideal world, you’d be able to protect your kids from all harm (and, obviously, get them to behave the way you want). You’ve probably realized by now, though, that your best intentions don’t always translate into your ideal scenario, which can feel like a harsh wake-up call. Realizing you’re not as in control as you once thought is upsetting for good reason. Control offers predictability and comfort we all naturally crave. While you may not be able to control everything that’s happening around you, it is possible to regain your footing and build some confidence in the midst of chaos.
 
SELF
 
7 Things to Do When Life Feels Out of Control
 
This is what to do to get back your footing.
 
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3 Small Ways to Bring Order Back Into Your World
 
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Take a Few Deep Breaths
Whether it’s your kids trashing the living room or the state of the world throwing you for a loop, you’d be amazed at the power of a couple of deep breaths. Even just a minute or two of slow, deep inhales and exhales can help you feel physically calmer after the fact and more able to think logically about the situation at hand.
 
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Cross a Few Things Off Your To-Do List
When life feels like a crap-storm, crossing items off your to-do list — even if they seem totally inconsequential — can feel oddly satisfying and even soothing. “Doing something useful can give you a sense that something’s getting done, which can help you feel like you have some control,” says Andrew Smiler, Ph.D., licensed therapist and U.S. mental health advisor for Movember.
 
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Maintain a Predictable Routine
You may not be able to control what’s happening around you, but it can help to zone in on the parts of your life you can control. Especially important? Consistent morning and evening routines No matter how you structure those hours, bookending your day with a bit of soothing predictability can help you weather unexpected storms in the middle.
 
 
Further reading
7 Ways to Snap Out of ‘Parenting Fog’
5 Mindfulness Exercises That Only Take 5 Minutes
Expert Strategies to Help You Stop Overthinking
 
RELATIONSHIPS
 
8 Subtle Signs You Might Be Too Controlling
 
Control issues don't always look like control issues.
 
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DRINKS
 
4 Refreshing Bourbon Slush Recipes to Whip Up This Summer
 
The frozen drink is a heat-beating crowd-pleaser.
 
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PRODUCTIVITY
 
20 Time-Saving Tips for Extremely Busy Dads
 
Improve efficiency and create more opportunities to be a present and engaged dad.
 
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SKIN IN THE GAME
 
The Only Products You Need For Your Face
 
There are so many face care products for men it’s hard to keep track. These are the best of the best.
 
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