Procrastination is a dirty word. It’s also a largely misunderstood one. It’s about much more than simple laziness — if it were, the carefree task-avoidance period would be restful and refreshing. Instead, procrastination is draining because you’ve been doing two things simultaneously: worrying about the thing you’re not doing and feeling guilty about the thing you did instead. Despite all that multi-tasking, you’ve accomplished nothing. So, how do you defeat it and get shit done? Learning how to do so takes a bit of effort and self-awareness but it unlocks something amazing: Guilt-free leisure time. Here’s the advice you need to make it happen. |
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Keep Getting Distracted? Take Better Breaks
It seems counterintuitive but working for a set period with small breaks can actually improve your focus because your brain can get fatigued from ongoing demands. If you’ve got a big project ahead of you, break it up into smaller chunks and take regular pauses to refuel with a glass of water or a jaunt around the block. Billy Roberts, a therapist who works exclusively with ADHD patients, suggests taking a five-minute break for every 45 minutes of work. “The key is not starting another task for the next five minutes, and doing something physical or restorative,” he says. If you won’t remember to stop, set a timer and force yourself to take that time.
Here are a few more tips to combat distraction when working from home.
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Happiness and Mutual Respect Go Hand in Hand
Every couple fights. And everyone says things they don’t mean in the heat of the moment. But, when there’s legitimate bile behind the berating, it’s a problem. “Contempt is a genuine devaluing and disrespect for the other person,” said Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C, a marriage counselor and director of the Baltimore Therapy Center. “Respect is essential in a marriage, and it can still exist even in the face of disagreement or anger. But, when you see your spouse as someone unworthy of your respect, your marriage is likely to go downhill from there.”
In a relationship, mutual respect looks like speaking to one another in a respectful and considerate fashion, keeping your partner in mind when you’re making decisions, and responding to your partner’s needs and wants,” says Saba Harouni Lurie, a licensed marriage and family therapist, and founder and owner of Take Root Therapy in Los Angeles. “That doesn’t mean necessarily sacrificing yourself in order to make or keep your partner happy, but it means communicating with love, even when it’s difficult.”
Here are 12 signs of a happy relationship to remember.
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