Support

Honoring Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR)

Each November 20th, PFLAG joins in honoring the Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR), which was inspired by the 1998 murder of Rita Hester. 

Sadly, 2021 has already seen at least 45 transgender or gender non-conforming people die by violent means including, most recently, a beloved member of the PFLAG Tampa family. We say "at least," because often these stories go unreported or misreported. As in previous years, the majority of lives taken were those of Black and Latina transgender women. We would be remiss not to also mention the many trans and gender-nonconforming people we have lost to complications from COVID-19. See the list to date courtesy of our friends at HRC.

This year, for TDOR 2021 we encourage you to participate in TDOR vigils, whether virtual or in person. For in-person events, please participate in a way that is safe based on your community's COVID guidelines. Many of our PFLAG chapters will host virtual TDOR events via their PFLAG Connects meetings. Find the chapter nearest you and ask how they are honoring the day.

Education

Three Steps to Being a Better Trans Ally

Trans Visibility Week started on November 13th, so make sure you’re ready to support the Trans and Nonbinary community all week long.

1. Learn: Check out straightforequality.org/trans to help you learn more about what you can do to be a better ally to individuals who identify as transgender and/or nonbinary, no matter where you are on your ally journey. Be sure to check out our great publications, guide to being a trans ally and Our Trans Loved Ones (available in both English and Spanish).
2. Watch: Rewatch our Supporting Trans and Nonbinary Loved Ones: What Would You Do? PFLAG Academy Online to keep your allyship skills sharp and focused. Want to learn more about Nonbinary identities? Be sure to also take a look at What The +?: Understanding and Supporting Expansive LGBTQ+ Identities.
3. Share: Use social media to help spread the word about virtual events in your community meant to commemorate Trans Awareness Week  and the Transgender Day of Remembrance.

Advocacy

Tell your Legislators: Let's Build Back Better

PFLAG National supports the Build Back Better Act, which will help all families thrive. The bill would expand pre-K for all 3- and 4-year old children; expand childcare subsidies, ensuring families pay no more than 7% of their income in childcare costs; and expand the ACA to include health insurance to people in states without expanded Medicaid, covering low-income people, seniors, and people with disabilities, including LGBTQ+ people, who might not otherwise be covered. Build Back Better is expected to come up for a vote in the House this week!

Contact your Representative and two Senators--don’t forget to give them your address and tell them PFLAG sent you--and ask them to vote in favor of this important bill.

Something to Talk About...Live!

Join PFLAG National live this Thursday, November 18th at 4:30 PM ET/1:30 PM for Something to Talk About Live! This week, we’ll be discussing " State Department issues first gender-neutral United States passport," from  Metro Weekly by John Riley.

We are excited to be joined this week by our friends from National Center for Transgender Equality, Executive Director Rodrigo Heng-Lehtinen (he/him) and national organizer Sybastian Smith (he/him).

You can watch live on Facebook, YouTube, LinkedIn, or Twitter.

For more information--and to check out our discussion questions in advance--visit straightforequality.org/something-talk-about-live-november-18-2021.