Stress management
Everyone has their own way of trying to deal with stress, but I find that sometimes it can help to hear other people's strategies for doing so to see whether they can supplement our own techniques.
In this spirit, I will describe below some techniques I have for managing stress, which I have been thinking about recently due to having gone through a stressful situation.
Hearing other people's problems
Sometimes if I am going through a difficult time, it can help to take my mind off things and put things in perspective if I hear about difficulties other people are going through, particularly family and friends. I find this can reduce the sense of distress I am feeling in the knowledge that most people are going through issues most of the time, that this in many ways is part of the human condition.
Going to a favourite place
I find that if I am feeling stressed, if I go somewhere like a favourite cafe or park, this can help to reduce the negative feelings I am experiencing and sometimes help me see my problems in a different, more
positive light as well. This is particularly the case if I have been a bit isolated at home and then travel somewhere where there are plenty of people around. Just seeing people experiencing a normal existence can make a positive difference to how I am feeling, and enable me to feel better when I go home.
Taking inspiration from others
Sometimes it can feel like some people have a perfect life, but my feeling is this is rarely the reality, I find that if there is someone whose life I admire, it can also help to think about the difficult issues they will also have faced in their life.
In recent times we have seen
the extraordinary achievement of Emma Raducanu to win the US Open. But only a few weeks before this she went through the difficult experience of withdrawing from Wimbledon with breathing difficulties. And although she appears to be dealing with her new found fame very well, my view is this is unlikely to be totally a bed of roses.
I have found that observing and thinking about how she has been dealing with whatever comes her way has provided me with inspiration to do the same in my own life.
Trying something different
I have found that doing a different activity to usual can sometimes get me out of a negative
mindset, and following on from the above I have recently started watching live tennis on Amazon Prime Video. In my case, there is something about changing to a different activity to usual that helps me to combat stress when I have been focussing on the same thoughts repeatedly.
Means of expression other than words
In my case, stress usually manifests itself through verbal thoughts that trouble me, and sometimes it can help relieve the tension by engaging other senses. This might be music or drawing or photography, or even just the smell of newly mown grass. I find that if there is something troubling me it helps to "replace" it with something like a favourite tune or
taking photos in a favourite location.
Thinking about the bigger picture
There are perhaps as many views of the world as there are people on the planet, but there are some issues which affect many or all of us. I find it can sometime help me to escape and combat a stressful situation if I think about and engage with such issues.
Some people find that religion has this effect. Alternatives might include climate change, inequality in the world or the future prospects for children and young people. Sometimes, my own problems don't seen so insurmountable when I think about the bigger picture like this. I also
find that the knowledge that concern over such issues is shared amongst large numbers of people can also forge connections to others and in the process relieve the stress that comes from feeling one is alone.
Hoping some of you find some of the above of interest :)