On that Ellen DeGeneres defense of her friendship with George W. Bush...
Yes, of course, it’s important to work across lines of difference and disagreement. But we must also hold one another accountable for our participation in oppression and harm.
Bush may be a "friendly guy," but he's also a war criminal who spent his presidency stripping away civil liberties and LGBTQIA+ rights. Yes, we should treat one another with dignity, but we can’t nice-nice away racism and oppression. We need more skill and discernment than “can’t we all just get along."
Ellen and Bush together does not make me "have faith in America again." It's just more of the same: white, privileged solidarity that bypasses the hard to look at truths of our culture and country.
Kindness derived from denial is harmful.
For there to be forgiveness, there needs to be accountability.
For there to be redemption, there needs to be justice.
For there to be transformation, there needs to be truth.
Imagine if white folks were as committed to justice as they are to niceness. Then, perhaps, we can have the friendships and relationships necessary to build the America that we all deserve.
Kerri
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