It’s wise to think about your relationships in terms of boundaries. Kathy and Tom didn’t, and it got their marriage off to a rocky start.
Kathy, an introvert, blamed Tom, an extrovert, for smothering her. He placed such an emphasis on spending time together that Kathy often felt like she had no personal space or time for herself. Tom, in turn, interpreted Kathy’s desire for space as a lack of love for him, leaving him feeling hurt and disconnected.
How did they sort through it all? Boundaries.
A relational boundary is a line that separates things and defines who “owns” what, like feelings, attitudes, and behaviors. If there is a problem with one of those, the problem belongs to whoever owns that feeling, attitude, or behavior. A husband and wife are free to make their own choices, but they must also take responsibility for them.
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