The stress of daily life takes a toll on even the happiest couples — which is why marriage and family counselor Dr. Randy Schroeder says seeking marital happiness is unrealistic. A better approach is to pursue consistent marital satisfaction. How? Good habits.
Dr. Schroeder offers four “daily essentials” for creating good habits in your marriage:
- “Goodbye, I love you.” Whoever leaves the house first should initiate this.
- “Goodnight, I love you.” Whoever goes to bed first should initiate this.
- First five minutes. Each morning, set a positive atmosphere for your relationship by being kind and pleasant to each other first thing. When the first five minutes are positive, the remainder of your day will more likely be positive.
- “Two within twenty.” Connect in a meaningful way for two minutes within 20 minutes of reuniting at the end of the day. This is not an opportunity to vent your stress onto each other. Instead, focus your attention on your spouse and give him or her a meaningful kiss and hug.
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