“Every married person has probably heard of the “roommate effect” — that not-so-great phenomenon where you realize you’re treating your spouse more like a roommate than someone you deeply love and connect with,” writes Sam Darby today. “It’s easy to see how it happens. Divvying up household chores, spending most of your evenings chasing after kids, stealing five minutes together in the hallway after bedtime before getting to everything else on your list — it’s a common complaint for a reason. But what if your marriage starts feeling like a “situationship”?”

She spoke with some experts to ask what the hell to do about it.

These easy recipes to use up potatoes are perfect for when you have half a mesh bag of them left to cook with, and no idea what you should make.