There’s a nagging bit of social etiquette we have been told to observe and to use as an admonition to others. It goes like this: “In polite company, you don’t talk about politics or faith.”
It is a damnable lie. It has done incalculable harm to our republic and the souls of men.
The lie is so disgusting because it feels so genteel. It seems to urge a cautious politeness, where we seek not to offend the delicate sensibilities of those around us—including, we don’t say, ourselves.
Instead, the lie has turned us into shallow, callow half-citizens. It has allowed us to sink into an idolatrous form of self-confidence, allowing our ideas to fester without
challenge. There is simply no good intention that comes from starting or spreading that lie. From the beginning, it was intended to silence the rabble and to cause citizens to feel isolated in their values and beliefs.
Holy Scripture demands that I proclaim the glory of God with every breath—even in polite company. If I am silent about my faith, I am failing in the calling placed on every believer. Yes, we are urged in 1 Peter to do so with “gentleness and respect,” but that is a far cry from the “don’t talk” standard of the pernicious social lie.
Indeed, “gentleness and respect” is precisely what we have lost by internalizing that lie.
The Constitution asserts governing power rests with the
citizenry. How can we govern effectively if we aren’t engaging with each other on the critical and even divisive issues of the day?
We have nagged out of our social toolkits the ability to have gentle and respectful conversations with others on matters of great—and even grave—importance. By bottling up our thoughts, opinions, and concerns, they take on an emotional life disconnected from reality.
All of this has benefited the crony elite. They would rather our self-governing republic morph into the soft tyranny of a European-style administrative state where the citizens are reduced to serfs.
It is in the polite company of family and friends that we should, with gentleness and respect, be able to work through the issues of the
day as shaped by our values and beliefs.
The Deep State functionaries would prefer we all talk about anything else.
The net effect of this “don’t talk” lie has been to cause conversations on matters of spiritual and political importance to be held only in “impolite company.” Because there has been no social training in holding gentle and respectful conversations, any such discussion devolves into a shouting match marked by the most extreme emotions.
Do not get me wrong. The issues of faith and governance are worthy of great passion and demand our utmost commitment. And, yet, as our republic nears its 250th birthday, we should be better—not worse—at such interactions. Consider that the Federalist Papers
were written for common consumption and public discourse!
Scripture implies we should be able to disagree without being disagreeable.
The social compact that undergirded the formation of our constitutional republic held that individuals can—and should—seek out opportunities to challenge each other’s assumptions. The Book of Proverbs puts it this way: “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.”
As citizens, we can no longer afford the dullness brought on by the “polite company” lie.
For liberty to thrive, we as citizens must sharpen each other daily so that we each can be effective in the fight for the future of our republic.