“Adult children going no contact with one or both parents has been a hot topic in recent years,” writes Katie McPherson. “But in between adoring your parents (or in-laws) and cutting them off completely, there are a lot of other ways for a relationship to play out. Maybe you and your parents love each other but have a lot of different beliefs now, or perhaps you and your in-laws are just super different personality-wise. In those cases, you want your kids to have a relationship with their grandparents, even if your own connection with them is strained at times (or all the time).” So how do you balance this, especially during the family-heavy holiday season? She spoke with a psychologist to find out.

Good luck out there.

You may have missed it, since we published it in the thick of Thanksgiving week, but we have a very lovely piece about period shame and learning from your children to move on from it. Shelley Mann Hite sets the scene: One morning not so long ago I walked into the bathroom and spotted a used tampon applicator fully visible, right at the top of the trash in the garbage can. My breath caught and my cheeks flushed as I yanked a few squares of toilet paper from the roll, wrapped it up like a miniature mummy, and shoved it deep into the bin. I was immediately transported back to my 12-year-old self, when I was new to periods and mortified by every aspect of them.” But then she took a beat and thought about why that was happening, and what she could learn from her own daughter.