Exercising Empathy
If you are among those who've been able to work from home during this crisis, you might have noticed in early April that you were getting COVID gut—an extra pound or more, likely because walking is gone from your daily routine, and maybe because you're doing some anxiety eating, too. Amid all the pain of this emergency, this is an embarrassingly minor, solvable problem. Go for a walk, Jarrett. And take it easy on the cold cuts.
A harder problem is what to do about the people protesting the shutdown, screaming at nurses, claiming that this is all a hoax. Or those who have no sympathy for undocumented immigrants, or who get defensive about racial disparities in how's this virus has hit.
You yell an epithet at the TV screen or dish out a devastating counter-attack on Twitter, and feel much better. And then another one pops up.
It's not profound, but here's my new strategy: I'm trying to find something in those totally ridiculous arguments that is, boiled to its purest form, not ridiculous at all—maybe something that, if you were in their shoes, would change how you saw the world. We all want to provide for our families. We all deal with fear differently. We all resent it when we hear (maybe incorrectly) someone telling us our pain is less worthy than others'.
Finding this empathy anchor isn't about rationalizing those arguments. It doesn't mean those deep sentiments are accurate or useful, that there are no bad guys, that we can all be friends. But understanding the real—perhaps even decent?—place some of those deeply harmful ideas come from might give us a way to actually talk to our opponents. At the very least, it preserves their humanity. It keeps the pile of people we have totally dismissed from blocking out the sun.
Yes, some vicious minority of the shouters might offer no humanity to latch onto. That will be clear if we try to separate their volume from their logic. If nothing else, we all have plenty of time to think about it. Maybe on our next walk.
Stay healthy,
Jarrett Murphy, executive editor
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