“When my ex and I separated 10 years ago, we were very clear about one thing: our kids would come first,” writes Diana Park. “They’d come before our feelings about each other, new partners, and any hurt, sadness, or mourning we had. It was important that our kids didn’t get caught in the crossfire of our divorce. I’m proud of us as parents; we’ve done a good job with all three of our kids. Not a perfect one, but a damn good one.”

But she got something else out of the arrangement that has really surprised her.

— Kelly Faircloth, Executive Editor

“Halloween is one of those holidays that you can feel pulsing throughout the entire day. Everyone’s spirits are high, costumes are worn to work and school, candy corn is a breakfast consideration — it’s just one big, fun day from start to finish. But it can feel a little hairy the closer you get to trick-or-treating, especially on a school night,” writes Samantha Darby. What are you supposed to feed these little ghouls??? She’s got some advice.