OK, so here’s the bad news: there is no destination in healing. No magic bullet. No checklist. No light at the end of a tunnel. No gold star.
Healing is a journey. It demands that we go through the pain and suffering and come completely undone. Only then can we remember and reconnect to the part of us that has been whole all along.
“You either walk into your story and own your truth, or you live outside of your story, hustling for your worthiness,” says Brené Brown. Being at peace with our “selves” is remembering who we have always been. Not only does it unleash our capacity to be our full selves, it allows us to see and interact with others in their full capacity. All of us embody the complexities and contradictions that are endemic to being human. When we can cultivate a capacity to hold that for ourselves, we can hold that for one another.
But there's good news: The journey of healing can also be joyful and full of discovery.
Through healing, we recover parts of ourselves that have been lost to the project of dominance. We create more capacity to feel and respond to whatever is arising. And we become more available to experience love, more capable of seeing beauty and more willing to show up with courage and compassion.
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