Dear John,

My mother has been working as a caregiver for older and disabled folks for more than 25 years, nearly all of my life. She never wavered in dedication to her job, always respecting the innate dignity of the people she cares for—but still, the work is extremely hard. Growing up, my mother would often work the night shift, leaving the house for the assisted living or nursing home at 9 p.m. and returning 10 hours later at 7 a.m. to drive me and my sister to school.

Though she rarely let it show when I was a child, I see now how the work wears on her mind and body—she’s often the last face someone sees before they pass and the daily witness to people navigating extreme physical and emotional pain. The work also limits her ability to find solace and rejuvenation—her spiritual practice, music, and friendships are the first things sacrificed for a few hours of sleep. My mom’s story is similar to the millions of other care workers and caregivers who support our youngest children and older and disabled folks—and who are frequently disabled themselves. All too often, this work goes unrecognized. Will you join me and take a moment today to send a note of gratitude?

Care work involves long days, demanding physical activity—and very low wages. Even after long shifts, my mom continues to manage her household, debates whether she has time to go to the doctor since her back is always acting up due to the physical toll of her job, and still often takes on additional home care jobs in the afternoons to supplement the low pay at the nursing home. That’s why I’m taking the time today during Care Workers Recognition Month to thank my mom and all the other care workers for their work—make sure your words of appreciation are included!

Undercompensated and under-supported jobs in the care industry demonstrate that our system does not value care workers like my mom, who are often low-paid, Black and brown women who struggle to support themselves and their families. The National Women’s Law Center is advocating for large-scale investments in our nation’s care infrastructure so that people working in home care, child care, and other vital jobs have living wages, rights and benefits at work, and sustainable careers. We need to care for the people who care for everyone else.

My mom’s work has brought so much value to my life—she taught me how to be a steadfast listener, a warm conversationalist, and to show up not only for myself but for the future of this world, where hopefully the innate dignity of every person can be seen and recognized. Has there been someone like my mom who has impacted your life? If so, let me know with a short note of appreciation now.

In gratitude,

Veronica Faison
she/her/hers
Counsel, Income Security and Child Care
National Women's Law Center