When I think back to all the time I have wasted dissatisfied. Always wanting things to be better. Getting hooked by nice things and shiny new toys. Setting impossible goals for myself and my life. Comparing and feeling like shit. Competing and compromising people I love. It is an endless cycle of not enough-ness that has cost me so much.
But the grass isn’t greener. It’s fake.
“Even when the game is going our way, we often feel a nagging disconnect,” says Lynne Twist, author of The Soul of Money. “the gap between the way we imagine life should be and the way we are living it, under a daily pressure to earn more, buy more, save more, get more, have more and be more”. It situates us in this perpetual in-between state - we’re “here” but we want to be “there”. “Here” is lacking, it is not good enough, it is imperfect and unsatisfactory. “There” is not just aspirational, it is often idealistic and impossible.
Progress is not more or better. It is enough already. It is our willingness to be so radically present with what is that we don’t get hooked by what could be. It is to slow down enough to notice that the grass is already growing and you are already changing. 🌱
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