When it comes to relationships, an initial instinct might be that you don’t want to turn a little issue into a big one. If today’s annoyance might become tomorrow’s pain, why rush it along? Why poke it? That’s a problem for Future You — that is, if it becomes a problem at all. But in relationships ignored issues that gnaw at you a little early on may mutate into monstrous things. And if you can prevent that, well, that’s worth a little discomfort in the present. It all starts with asking a simple question and seeing where the answers lead you.