If you were to conduct an on-the-street survey aiming to discover what people either want from a relationship or most cherish in the relationship they have, some of the top statements will most likely be: “I want a partner who makes me feel valued.” “What do I love about my spouse? They really make me feel valued.”

Now, what constitutes this emotional value can vary wildly between people, and deducing how your partner prefers to be appreciated can be a process. But actively engaging in it is one of the cornerstones of any healthy relationship, according to Dr. Ryan Warner, a clinical psychologist and mental health expert. “To truly make your partner feel valued,” he says, “focus on understanding their individual preferences and showing appreciation for their unique qualities.” Obvious? Sure. But execution requires adherence to a few principles. Master them and your relationship will soar.