Perfectionism is a lie intended not just to keep us struggling in shame and scarcity, but to keep us complicit in upholding systems of exploitation and extraction. Everything that we allow when we don’t feel that we are enough not only harms us personally, but contributes to the cycle of oppression that is threatening our collective survival.
Shame is political. Not only does it fuel the all-American obsession with being perfect, skinny, productive and well, but it is the driving force behind a system that thrives on controlling bodies to keep people performing their roles in the dynamic systems of oppression.
Healing is taking an honest look at the role we play in our own suffering and the suffering of others. Whether we like it or not, there is no escape from these systems, there is no perfect way of being, no pure lifestyle that allows us to transcend the toxicity of our culture. The world is a fucked-up mess, and no amount of purity and perfectionism is going to fix it.
Healing from perfectionism is not just personal, it’s political. Which means healing from perfectionism isn’t just about reckoning our toxic patterns, it’s about confronting the culture and systems that have shaped us and held us back from ourselves and each other.
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