John,
At age 19 I walked into my Catholic college’s health clinic on Valentines Day. My period was late. The nurse walked into the exam room with my pregnancy test, congratulated me, and my stomach dropped to the floor.
In shock, I walked out of the office and found my boyfriend. He could tell immediately that I had gotten news neither of us were ready to hear.
I knew he wasn’t ready to be a father. I knew I was not ready to be a mother… I knew, deep down inside, that we did not stand a chance of raising a family together.
I had a medical abortion at 6 weeks pregnant. I was confused when I was not depressed or sad afterwards, but relieved. My limited education of abortion had only given me the sense that all women who make this decision would be swallowed by regret for the rest of their lives.
Up until this point I had identified as “Pro-life.” I grew up going to Catholic school and went to a Baptist church on weekends. But more than God or religion, what made me pro-life was my mother.
My mother was a teen mom, and I had always told myself that If I ever found myself pregnant unexpectedly, I would do what my mother did. But my mother struggled. Young and with few resources, she had to work harder than anyone I have ever known to support my brother and me.
When I found out I was pregnant, the realities of my mother’s journey hit me square in the face. I was not ready to embark on that journey. I was in no place to provide for a child.
My abortion experience changed me in a way I never saw coming, so much so that after I was recovered I interned at a Women’s health clinic in Atlanta that offered abortion services. In my role I would sit with women on the day of their abortion procedure. I helped them fill out their medical paperwork, I talked to them about the procedure, I offered them a compassionate ear, and I listened to their stories. I did this for two years. I have quite literally heard hundreds of women’s stories on the day of their abortion procedure.
That is why I am running for office; I know that when a woman walks into an abortion clinic, it is their saving grace. No one is there flippantly or gleefully. Women are there because they need to be.