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Hey y'all,
According to Brené Brown, “Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, live perfectly, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.” It’s not the same as striving. Perfectionism says that if you DO not do it ____ enough (insert any adjective here: “smart”, “fast”, “beautiful”, etc.), you ARE not enough. Perfectionism is never about perfecting things or tasks; it’s about perfecting the self. Which, of course, is not possible. And yet we can’t help ourselves.
From procrastinating to people-pleasing, from micromanaging to obsessing over mistakes, from never feeling satisfied to never finishing a task, from overwhelm to overthinking to over delivering to over-everything - perfectionism is the enormous and all consuming drive towards a never-ending destination that keeps us deeply insecure, dissatisfied and addicted.
Here are five signs you might be addicted to perfectionism:
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You procrastinate (and take forever to finish things)
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You’re terrified of disappointing people (and being abandoned)
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You are never satisfied (b/c it's never good enough)
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You dwell on mistakes (and obsess about your flaws)
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You don't feel worthy of rest (and are vulnerable to burnout)
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