The decision to marry someone “for better or for worse” isn’t just a choice that you make once on your wedding day — it’s a choice you make every day, several times a day.
Researchers say that the average person makes about 35,000 decisions a day. Just one of those choices is the choice to love your spouse. When you’re in the day-to-day grind of building your career and parenting your children, intentionality is key in expressing love to your spouse.
People call it “falling in love,” but love is anything but passive or accidental. Although our initial romantic attraction may feel involuntary, love that endures requires intentionality. For love to grow, we must choose to nurture it.
On our Focus on the Family Broadcast “Making Positive Choices for a Stronger Marriage,” we’re helping husbands and wives better understand the power of choice in their marriages.
Our guests are Dr. Ron and Jan Welch. Ron is a clinical psychologist specializing in marriage and family, and Jan is a teacher who works with at-risk children. They’ve been married to each other for over 30 years.
When couples make better choices, their relationships improve, and they become happier people. This idea brings hope to every marriage because even the most challenged relationship can improve with different choices — and each spouse can choose to focus on their own behavior.
Choosing love takes place in the day-to-day decisions couples make — where to go to dinner, whether to wash dishes or pick up socks, what television show to watch. These mundane moments are where choosing love actually happens.
On this program, we discuss:
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Choosing to have the best marriage and facing conflict.
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Choosing to believe in your marriage and in each other.
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Choosing to stay committed to each other.
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Choosing to forgive your spouse.
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Choosing to trust your spouse.
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Choosing not to take your spouse for granted.
Listen to our full conversation on your local radio station, online, on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, via Google Podcasts, or take us with you on our free phone app.
If your marriage is struggling, we have caring Christian counselors on staff, and it would be their privilege to offer you a free consultation. Call us, leave your name and number, and they’ll get back with you just as soon as possible. The number during business hours is 1-800-A-FAMILY (232-6459).
I also want to remind you about Hope Restored. If you’re on the brink of divorce, our Hope restored marriage intensives can go a long way toward facilitating healing between you and your spouse and bringing restoration to your relationship. The intensives take place in four locations: Branson, MO; Greenville, MI; the WinShape Retreat Center in Rome, GA; and our brand new location in Cave Creek, AZ. The number for Hope Restored is 1-866-875-2915, or visit online.
Dr. Ron Welch’s book 10 Choices for a Better Marriage: How to Work through Struggles and Increase Joy Today is available for a gift of any amount. For more information, click here. | 
