Let’s learn how to ‘Disagree Better’
Today, I was honored to be elected to serve as the 2023-2024 chair of the National Governors Association – a bipartisan group made up of the nation's governors with the goal of working together to benefit all Americans. As chair, I get to select an initiative to focus on for the next year. I’m excited to share our initiative – Disagree Better – with you.
Americans need to disagree better. And by that we don’t mean that we need to be nicer to each other, although that’s helpful. We need to learn to disagree in a way that allows us to find solutions and solve problems instead of endlessly bickering.
The “exhausted majority” of Americans want this, and the science is clear about interventions that reduce polarization. As doers and builders, governors are in a unique position to model what healthy conflict looks like.
The Disagree Better initiative will look at the problems of polarization, elevate the solutions that groups around the country are already implementing, and feature governors showing what disagreeing better looks like. Through public debates, service projects, public service announcements and a variety of other tactics, Americans will see a more positive and optimistic way of working through our problems.
We’re also going to put these principles to work on a real-world policy challenge that needs resolution: the longtime stalemate over immigration. In collaboration with the business community and other stakeholders, our hope is to find enough consensus among governors to identify common principles around immigration policy.
We know that conflict resolution takes work and involves difficult conversations. It’s much easier to sow division than to persuade or find solutions. But we also know that no one ever changed someone’s mind by attacking them.
So, next time you are speaking with someone you disagree with, take a deep breath. Instead of punching back or walking away, listen. Better yet, be curious, ask some questions. If you still disagree, that’s OK, but you might find out you aren’t as far apart as you think.
Through healthy conflict, we’re confident that we can find common ground and improve our families, our communities and our nation. Together, we can disagree better. You can learn more at the video above and at this link here.
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