Traveling with little kids can be one of the most rewarding experiences of parenthood. Family adventures add much to the fabric. But, hoo boy, can it also be a struggle if you’re not prepared. Trusted routines are tossed out the window. Meltdowns are more likely. Everything takes longer and requires more effort. We all learn how to adapt to the new travel normal — and quickly learn the difference between a “vacation” and a “family trip.” But there are plenty of mistakes learned along the way.

Hey, you live and you learn. It’s how the game works. But it’s also something that can be used to your advantage, as learning about some mistakes or realizations from parents who’ve been there can make traveling with kids a bit easier — or at least rearrange your expectations a bit. That’s why we asked a dozen dads about what they wish they knew about traveling with little kids a bit sooner. Take note of the advice they shared — advice that they arrived at through a lot of trial and error and tantrums. Whether you’re a new parent or an experienced one, there’s something here that can make the journey a little smoother. And, oh yeah, be sure to pack yourself extra clothes.