John,

Memorial Day is one of the loneliest days of the year for many returned soldiers and veterans like myself.

I wasn't prepared for my first Memorial Day after I came back from Afghanistan in 2006. I wandered the grocery store in a daze, remembering the faces of fallen friends. The shoppers milling around me looking for hamburger rolls seemed unaware of the gravity of the day. It was disheartening. It felt like they didn’t understand.

So I began a new routine for the holiday. Every year, I reach out to my military buddies as well as the Gold Star families in my life – the loved ones of friends I've lost. It’s a small gesture. But for parents and spouses who never stop grieving the loss of a child or partner a simple phone call means more than words can say.

I want to encourage you to join me in this tradition. Reach out today to someone you know with ties to the military – it could be a friend or family member, a Gold Star widower or returned veteran. Let them know you appreciate their service and sacrifice. Don't know anyone with military ties? Blue Star Families has a Maryland chapter, and they welcome civilian volunteers and donors to support their work.

And then, go enjoy that family BBQ, opening day at the neighborhood pool, or local parade. I'll be taking in an Orioles game with several Gold Star families. It's ok to appreciate the community and joy these events bring as long as we're all also remembering the reason for today.

Elevate,

Wes