“When I started telling friends and family that my ex and I had decided to split, I heard a lot of ‘Have you tried counseling?’ and ‘We had no idea!’ But the most common question was a two-parter: Are you sure this is what you want? How do you know?” writes Diana Park today. And she still gets it a lot, too, from people who’ve read her work and from people she knows who are questioning their marriages.

So today, she’s sharing her answer. “This is always what I say: You already know what you want to do by how you are living your life right now.” She’s got more to say at the link, too — check it out.

Kelly Faircloth, Executive Editor